“Leadership, influences…and fucking idiots”
My original intent for this blog was to flush out my thoughts and ideas of a better world, so I could help make a contribution to said betterment. It was sidetracked by my personal activities of travel, food, and mindless shit. I apologize to anyone that might be disappointed by my divergence.
“What it looks like from my perspective…”
I have an abundant life, well beyond my parents dreams. My siblings are equally blessed from the foundations we were set off into the world with. None of this abundance has come without struggle, sacrifice, and emotional turmoil along the way. Still, we view our status as the result of working diligently, understanding compromise, recognizing delayed gratification, and the blessings of a supportive family, namely fully involved grandparents. The three of us see ourselves as ordinary, and the results of a driven effort to achieve our own way. How do we share that mentality with others to offer them a similar path?
“Command respect vs Demand respect…”
Brown nosing a life path to a place of some measure of authority isn’t unique to high level corporations. This leapfrog posturing for advantage is a byproduct of social interaction, measuring and manipulating the intent of others has been a part of human existence since language itself. The question then is:
“What mechanism allows particular individuals the capacity to overlook this tactic, and lead by example, absent of taking advantage of the disadvantage created by manipulation”
How often in life do we encounter that person, who believes your respect is warranted, simply because of their authoritative position relative to you? Bosses, teachers, political types, family and the likes all subject others to the idea of their control. Their overbearing authority is supported by fear, and they sleep at night knowing they’re in control. All the while, their subordinates take every opportunity to mock, gossip, and ridicule those folks as “fucking idiots”!
That “secret sauce” is what needs to be identified, and unleashed upon the children today. I’ve always seen myself as ordinary. My behavior was just as disruptive as the bad kids in school, while my grades were as high as the well behaved ones. I excelled in sports, as it just seemed to come naturally to me, but hated the losing aspect. I was relentless in any form of competition, yet I never felt badly about myself for not winning. Somehow, I developed what Carol Dweck refers to as a “Growth Mindset” where improving for the next challenge was yielded from not winning. As I’ve matured (somewhat) that winning desire has been subjugated by “Good Enough” as my physical abilities have diminished into middle age. How did my life produce my current self, and so many others of my generation fell to the wayside? I don’t feel any different from them…